We all hoped that the increase in the number of women graduating from law schools, 40% to 50% in the last 20 years, would have a massive positive effect on the profession. Today, young women coming to law school believe the widespread message that there is no more discrimination and that they can have it all. They see large numbers of women teachers in the classrooms and they think discrimination has ended. It is only after they have been in the workplace for a few years that they figure out they can’t have it all. When they opt out, they take it as personal failure and not that the deck has been stacked against them in sophisticated new ways.